Know Where You Stand

By: MingleWiz

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A decade ago, whenever I heard of self development programs or life coaching sessions, I had this image of the participants coming out of it with a CEO monster personality that can conquer everything, if you know what I mean:

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Then the image changed to something more like these:

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Little did I know that it wasn’t any of the images but more about realizing truths about yourself and honing skills that will aid you to progress with your goals in life. Personally, I have not attended any school or program dedicated to self development or life coaching but I have been ten years in the workforce by now. It has blessed me with some life lessons and insights from more experienced people, like my boss.

One advice my boss always shares is the importance to KNOW WHERE YOU STAND.

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This advice is twofold:

1. On one hand, this would mean to know your responsibility/role/position at any social setting.

For example, at an organization this would include to know your position in the hierarchy chart of the organization. This will give you a clearer perspective on your obligations and the channels of communication to be used for effective flow of information. Thus, making life easier for everyone involved.

However, sometimes you might find yourself in a situation in life where you do not even know where your position is. In this case, it is important to not go with hypothesis. An evaluation of the situation needs to be conducted first, then discussed and communicated to the people involved to come to a mutual understanding.

2. On the other hand, this means that it is important to know yourself first.

Much like any project that involves turning an existing condition into a better one, you will first do a demand gap analysis to determine where emphasis/improvement should be given to achieve the desired outcome. Likewise, in order to better yourself, you have to first understand yourself well enough to determine where your weaknesses are in order to work on them and turn them into strengths, at best. Of course nobody is perfect and each one of us has many weaknesses. That is why, in my opinion, we work first on those weaknesses that attach themselves as hindering objects to our goals.

After that, I suggest to break the requirements that are needed to achieve your  goal into two categories, (if applicable): Technical and Emotional.

The technical aspect is easy to determine because once you know the technical requirements for your goal, you will be able to seek out those skills by learning them.

However, the emotional aspect is a little more tricky to determine because you will need to pay attention to your reactions first and then determine the underlying reasons for its triggering and the feelings attached to it, illustrated in the following example:

Example Episode

Trigger

Reaction

Feeling

Someone interfered in my personal life

Someone wanting to take control over my life

Blew up with anger

No freedom

In the previous example, if you do not work on the trigger issue, you will blow up with anger every time someone interfered in your life or asked you any questions about it. Now imagine this happened at your work with a client. That would be a problem. Therefore, learning skills  such as deflecting, for example,  comes in handy in such situations.

In the end, it is important that even after we have worked on all of these, not to forget to monitor it again from time to time, we are humans after all, we forget and sometimes slip back into our old habits.

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